Whether we’re dating in the real world or online, we’re relying too much now on hope and happenstance. We don’t allow ourselves to think about what we really want in a partner, an then we don’t sell ourselves in order to get it.After a series of bad dates following a major heartbreak, mathematically-driven Amy decided to take a quantitative approach to the playing field and started systematically recording various data points about her dates, revealing some important correlations.To learn more about Amazon Sponsored Products, click here.), digital strategist and journalist Amy Webb — one of the smartest people I know — takes us on her unexpected journey to true love, in which she sets out to “game the system, using math, data, and loopholes” to find the man of her dreams.So “the more you rate, the better you date,” he says.
During her career as a futurist, Webb has worked with hundreds of government agencies, corporations, nonprofits, universities, and associations from around the world.First was Los Angeles Ph D student Chris Mc Kinley, who applied his mathematical skills to Ok Cupid to “hack” their algorithms, transforming his empty inbox into a treasure trove of compatible mates and, 88 dates later, a marriage proposal (and, perhaps inevitably, a buzzed-about ebook, Optimal Cupid).Then tech CEO Amy Webb, similarly luckless on the Jewish online dating site JDate, created her own algorithm using 72 traits (“top tiers” are deal-breakers; “second tiers” are negotiable) to land a husband.If it sounds predictable and contrived, rest assured it’s anything but.
Amy writes in the introduction: I realized that we’ve all been going about finding our matches the wrong way.This one worked for her, which is fantastic, but I can tell you from experience (as a dater AND an online dating coach) that setting complicated requirement bars is often NOT the path to a data-driven happy ending. Amy sharply noted that online dating success is dependent on both great qualitative and great quantitative data.