None of this helps, of course, when a mature woman is considering going back into the dating pool.That is why I think it is so important that women work on addressing their mindset before venturing forth into the dating world. I have two friends who started dating again in their 60s, and so I got to witness their whole process around dating on a very close and personal level. One of these friends, whom I’ll call Andrea*, had spent many years grieving an old love and was finally ready to move forward with her love life. Honestly, I was astounded how my go-to single friend became part of a couple so quickly!Authored by Ondina Hatvany in Marriage & Relationships, Resources With divorce rates higher than ever before and Baby Boomers hitting their 50s, 60s and up, more and more mature women are finding themselves single and facing the choice whether to go back into the dating pool or not.Social mores and the media do not make it easy for older women.Here is the key mindset: when you harness the courage to express to yourself and the world the truth about what you want, are able to give, and are willing to accept in a relationship, you will be successful in love. Right now, maybe as far out as you can see is that you want to find someone that you can sleep with every weekend.Here are the questions you want to answer for yourself: What would you like the end result of your dating to be? OR maybe you are looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend.This is reinforced by romantic comedies, books, and unrealistic portrayals of relationships in the media.
You can choose to either view the world as abundant or scarce, but they cannot co-exist.We often look for some sort of formula to apply: “Ask this question on the second date,” or “Never talk about your previous relationships until at least the fifth date.” Those who are regular readers of our blog know there are NO hard and fast rules when it comes to dating, except to be honest with yourself and engage.Dating is actually a cool playground for personal development and growth.It’s a chance to learn who you are, what you want, and how others perceive you (or how you hope they perceive you).
Dating is also a great chance to let go of our limiting beliefs and explore the things holding us back.She nurtured and fostered the relationship and it very quickly blossomed.