Some of the most universal causes of universal anxiety include: Easily the most common cause of anxiety is uncertainty about the future of the relationship.This can come from lots of fights, or it can come from previous breakups, or it can come from growing distant.Your thoughts could be your relationship’s best friend or worst enemy.The quality of your thoughts has a direct effect on the quality of your relationship.You can talk in person with her about your experiences with her on the phone, when not present.If she is aggressive with you and will not stop aggression, then you have a present problem.My insecurity made me see problems where they didn’t exist, turning what could have been a successful relationship into a short-lived, dismal failure. If your partner doesn’t feel like going out, don’t assume it is because of you when they just as easily could have had a really bad day at work that drained their energy. A self-centered worldview will have you chasing boogeymen where they don’t exist.
Yet all anxiety is a struggle, and when you find yourself with relationship anxiety it's something that you want to cure.Competent, quality therapy can help to differentiate between these two situations.Clear, honest communication with her will also help.Dear Scott: Lots of the fears you have in this relationship are the fears of your childhood being triggered.
Maybe your drive to entertain her/ to start conversations is the ‘”solution” you came up with, as a child, maybe, to over-engage the critical person so she is less likely to criticize you.
Abusive relationships cause anxiety for reasons that are completely different than those that develop anxiety because of problems raising children.