Especially if you join a dating website or take part in an activity like speed dating, it’s really tempting to just show off the ‘best bits’ of yourself, hiding away all the things that you think are less attractive about you.
Living with a disability or health condition only exacerbates that feeling that there is stuff you should conceal if you want to appear attractive.
It has virtually transformed my outlook on life to be more positive and open to change.It can also feel that the effort and stress of finding a new partner and starting a new relationship is just too much to bear.Couple those thoughts with the breakdown of an existing relationship (as happens all too often) and many pain sufferers start to believe that their only choice is to be alone forever.The rest of the time, pain sucks my energy non-stop — making it enough of a challenge to crawl over to the espresso machine in my kitchen, never mind accomplish my objectives each day. Initially, when I took a stab at resuscitating my romantic life, I was sure that the almighty Internet would deliver the solution.
As is the case with every other young, single, professional goddess-type, my to do list include theses basics : Side-by-side with taking care of myself through these various means, I also run multiple businesses, spend time with friends and family, actively work on self-improvement, and do what I can to nurture my musical path. While Internet dating sites are highly convenient for pain-drained, busy individuals, I ultimately came to see them as a set-up for failure.And that’s when it hit me: Just as I’ve hired a program coordinator and administrator for my business, so must I hire a social manager for my personal life — someone who will do all the screening for me. So last week I signed up for a dating service called Table for Six.